It’s no secret that I’m not a fan of pickup methods that primarily use social value as an attraction tool. I don’t like methods that depend on the use of DHVs and negs to make women dependent on the PUA to restore their own self-esteem. That’s pretty messed up.
That being said, I still think it’s important to maintain a decent level of social value so that you don’t have a tough time with the shields and walls that women put up to filter out the “losers” who seemingly have nothing valuable to offer.
We all know about the importance of being a “high value” man, and that involves making yourself more attractive on a macro-game level, meaning that it gives you the advantage of being more attractive and desirable in a general day-to-day sense. What guys in the pickup community don’t seem to talk about so much anymore these days, however, is microcalibration.
Microcalibration is exactly what it sounds like – you calibrate your value on a micro-game level, meaning that it should give you the advantage of being more attractive and desirable (in terms of social value) in the moment you’re interacting with a girl. Microcalibrating means to maintain your value at a consistent level.
Most people who have heard about microcalibration generally think of it as a means to maintain high value in the face of congruency tests and bitch shields. While it is true that this is one main function of microcalibration, it has another purpose: to make sure that your perceived value isn’t too high!
Most guys overshoot and try to simply be as high-value as possible. They don’t even think about the potential advantages of microcalibrating so that they don’t make themselves seem too high-value too soon.
Also, they usually don’t realize how putting themselves on such a high pedestal can be dangerous.
In classic value-based pickup methods, there’s a necessity for an “exposing vulnerabilities” step for a reason. This is because of an inherent potential flaw built into the theory of using high value for attraction. Since most guys using these classic methods overshoot by DHVing too much, they unknowingly build a wall between them and the girl that hinders connection.
Just think about it. Imagine you’re a lowly employee of a company with a strong horizontal hierarchy and you’re at a dinner meeting with other employees, your boss, your boss’s boss, and even your boss’s boss’s bosses. You’re going to feel most comfortable chatting with the other employees of the same rank. You’ll most likely feel pretty comfortable chatting with your boss, but you’ll feel less comfortable with the idea of striking up a conversation with your boss’s boss. You might feel very uncomfortable with the idea of talking to your boss’s boss’s bosses.
If you make yourself seem too high value, the women you talk to aren’t going to be able to relate to you as well as people who they perceive to be “on their level.”
This is where microcalibration comes in. Not only should you use it to stay one step ahead of the game by heightening your social value, you also need to use it to breathe some humility into the game when you’re face to face with a teammate so that they see you as someone they can relate to.
I often preach that pickup isn’t about you vs. the girl, but rather that it’s all about you and the girl being on the same team. Many guys make the mistake of thinking of pickup as some sort of conquest-driven game where they must mentally berate a hot woman into submission as a demonstration of their masculine triumph over the feminine sexual prowess. That’s some fucked up shit. Pickup is really about connecting men and women in spite of the socially conditioned barriers that separate them.
In order to create the frame that you and the girl are on the same team, you need to microcalibrate so that you’re leading her to follow your high value. Not only do you need to be high value yourself, you also need to invite her to be on the same page. You cannot achieve this if your value is light years ahead of her’s. So, within an interaction with a woman, you need to be able to tone down your value to be at a similar level to her own perceived value for the “pacing” part in the classic “pacing and leading” structure.
I actually have to get going right now, but I’ll get into more detail about this “pacing and leading” thing, as well as more details about how to microcalibrate in Part 2.
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