In Part 1 of “Microcalibration,” I talked about how we need to be mindful of the fact that Microcalibration is meant to be used to control the level of our perceived social value so that it’s neither too low nor too high.
In this second part I want to get into more detail on how exactly you can microcalibrate an interaction. I must warn you, however, that these concepts are kind of advanced, and you’ll need some prior background knowledge and experience in pickup to understand this stuff. For example, those of you who are new to the PUA community may have trouble conceptualizing what I mean by “value.”
Anyway, in order to microcalibrate, all you have to do is follow a general theme of maintaining a consistent level of social value while slowly climbing those levels of social value at the same time.
When you first meet a girl, let’s say she has a neutral 50% value level. These are just arbitrary numbers for the sake of explanation; don’t think that there are real numbers to this thing. You have to demonstrate enough value to be somewhere around 50% to 55% value. You have to match her level (pacing) in order for her to feel like she can relate to you, but you also have to hover ever so slightly above 50% in order to encourage her to raise her own value to match yours (leading) by 1. qualifying to you or 2. taking value that you give to her.
So, you’ve paced her level of value and then you’ve led her to have a shared higher level of value. This is a form of pacing and leading. It’s also a slow escalation of value. That’s what I meant when I said that you have to consistently yet slowly climb the levels of social value.
Giving examples of microcalibration is pretty hard since it’s what you would call a “reactive” skill. How you should microcalibrate a situation is dependent on what the girl says or does. This means what you should say would be different depending on the situation, but there’s no way to memorize every possible situation you would use microcalibration in! It’s something you have to understand conceptually in order to use.
A very common theme in many schools of pickup – especially in those that follow “natural game” – is that you should be nonreactive, because alpha males don’t give a damn of what other people think of them, right? The usefulness of microcalibration versus the usefulness of nonreactiveness is actually a pretty popular debate in the pickup community, and each side has its merits.
I say it’s best to be flexible, and to use microcalibration when necessary and be nonreactive when it might be a better idea. It is, of course, oftentimes difficult to tell when to use what, but that sort of calibration sense is a great reward for experience! That’s why field time is so damn important. You can’t gain that sense of calibration for when to use which approach from reading a book or watching a DVD program.
All in all, you absolutely should use microcalibration at least sometimes, and the best way to do that is to make sure you’re using the classic “pacing and leading” method with value. Forget the most common value-based pickup philosophy of heightening your value while lowering her’s. Like I said in Part 1, you and the girl are on the same team. Stay on the same page. You’ll find seduction to be a lot easier that way.
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