I could have been Elliot Rodger

I could have been Elliot Rodger

By now I'm sure all of you have heard of the shooting in Santa Barbara this past Friday by the deranged gunman Elliot Rodger. He was a sexually frustrated 22-year old virgin who took out his aggression on the 6 people he killed that tragic day. Before the shooting, he recorded this haunting video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UL8h5UqNE2A Ever since I hit puberty, I've been forced to … [Read more...]

Hurting the Ones We Love

Hurting the Ones We Love

"Have you ever noticed how the people we are most rude to are the ones we care most about, the ones we think we have the best relationships with? It's because we think we can afford to not be on our best behavior with them. Isn't that messed up? You're more polite to someone you don't like than to someone you truly love. I think that's a fundamental mindset that needs shifting." - Igor … [Read more...]

Pay It Forward: The Ultimate PUA Movie?

Pay It Forward: The Ultimate PUA Movie?

If you haven't seen the movie Pay It Forward (2003) with Haley Joel Osment, Helen Hunt, and Kevin Spacey, see it. It actually brought tears to my eyes. If you haven't seen it you absolutely must. Alright, let's start small and break this movie down in accordance to its relevancy to pickup on a micro level. First of all, the character of Mr. Simonet, played by Kevin Spacey, provides some good … [Read more...]

What Men and Women Want

What Men and Women Want

It's commonly said that "Men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love." We see it every day; many men pretend to want committed, romantic relationships through promises of undying desire in order to coax open the legs of women while many women sexually tease and sleep with men in an attempt to trap them into relationships that evolve into a loving bond. Does that sound about right … [Read more...]

Work Out Your Love Muscles!

Work Out Your Love Muscles!

"Love" isn't so narrowly defined as most people think. I just had an interesting conversation with one of my friends about the nature of love, and it made me re-evaluate and remind myself as to why I'm teaching this pickup stuff. These days, we human beings desperately need to exercise love, but perhaps not in the way that most people think. My friend approached me asking for advice about … [Read more...]

Ghosts of Girlfriends Past

Ghosts of Girlfriends Past

I just saw the movie "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past." It's very PUA related; a previous FWB of mine (and current friend) recommended it to me. The movie is about this dude who, as a kid, fell in love with this chick. Then he got hurt. Then he became a player who had tons of casual sex with tons of women he never called back the next day... just so that he would never feel that pain again. *Spoiler … [Read more...]

Forgiveness

Forgiveness

This is a follow-up to "Obsession": http://chiefpua.com/?p=52 A couple days ago I came to grips with the fact that I cannot judge Spin. He's done some terrible things to me, but I still have no right to judge him. Who am I to say that he's a bad guy? I am just as human as he is. It just seems like he's got a sex addiction, and many of his friends would agree. From another perspective he could … [Read more...]

A meditation on struggle

A meditation on struggle

I've been thinking about something earlier today, and I just read something that Beschatten wrote in response to a question that somebody asked that got me thinking even more. "People lose sleep over a death, not a girl. Get a grip." -Beschatten Several years ago, when I was in middle school, I went through a completely negative and hateful goth phase. I wore all black, I hated the world, I … [Read more...]

Obsession.

Obsession.

They say that the Tarot cards can tell you things about yourself. Of course, a lot of the fortune telling aspects of Tarot that attempt to predict the future are hocus pocus bullshit with little or no scientific validity. Nonetheless, each card in the deck is designed to speak to a universal archetype that anyone can relate to. There are a lot of customized decks out there that deviate from the … [Read more...]

Lookin’ for love in all the wrong definitions

Lookin’ for love in all the wrong definitions

I gotta admit. We pickup artists are fucking pathetic. We are the male counterparts to drugged up strippers who can never find satisfaction and fulfillment. Why? You could say that we're all "looking for love in all the wrong places." As someone with respect for Buddhists beliefs (I'm a Taoist), I believe I understand what true love is about. In short, it's an all-encompassing compassion for … [Read more...]