Ask Chief: Being Called a Player

Ask Chief: Being Called a Player

Every now and then I get a really good question from a user on and I try to answer them to the best of my ability. Here’s a question about being called a “player” by girls. “Chris2k10” asks:

Are you supposed to avoid coming off as a player? What messes me up the most is the player vibe even though the girl knows she’s really attracted to me. My current and only solution for this is, “If you say so” with a humble smile on. What’s your insight on this, should I handle it differently or what?

Different styles work better for some people than others. Has your “If you say so” + humble smile response ever gotten in the way of a lay? I like the sound of it.

You also have to keep in mind that every girl is different, too. Some are more open to the idea of playing with a player but others have repeatedly gotten hurt from playing with other players in the past. One of the things I say is “I don’t play people,” and I’m congruent with that since my style tends to be more straightforward.

When you’re a little deeper into mid-game, though, exposing vulnerabilities should render all of those “player” accusations as irrelevant anyway.

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  1. Anonymous says:

    What do you mean by this:

    , exposing vulnerabilities should render all of those “player” accusations as irrelevant anyway.

    What do you mean by exposing vulnerabilities aside from taking off her panties?

  2. Being called a player is a perfect example of projection. The only women that call guys players are flayas. Women who aren’t flayas and who aren’t interested in players will find some other way to excuse themselves from the conversation rather than vomit their own projections at the guy talking to them.

  3. Anonymous,

    This link explains the concept of “exposing vulnerabilities” pretty well:

    It’s basically exposing a vulnerable side of yourself in order to establish some trust and a better connection.

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