Adopting Sexy Beliefs

Adopting Sexy Beliefs

It’s no secret that the beliefs we hold affect our lives in many different ways. It’s also commonly known throughout the seduction community that having a certain set of beliefs leads to more success with women and dating.

Some of these beliefs include:
1. Women love sex
2. Women are gorgeous and blameless
…well, I can make a list of useful beliefs that goes on and on for pages and pages, but that’s not the point of this post.

Fiftyone, a member of, asked me about adopting new beliefs. In short, he didn’t really know how to just start believing in something he didn’t believe before:
“I guess my problem now is to learn how to instill those beliefs into my brain and stop thinking like an AFC. I haven’t read that far into the book yet; maybe it’ll tell me how to change my beliefs and adopt new beliefs later on in the book. If you have some tips on that, please do share (psychology 101?)!” – Fiftyone

The book he was talking about suggests tons of useful beliefs, but it doesn’t tell you how to adopt any of them.

My response to him was as follows:

Adopting new beliefs is easy as pie. All you have to do is actively search for evidence in your reality that supports those new beliefs. Keep doing that until you can see evidence of that without even trying.

Do that too much in too little time and you just might lose grasp of reality and go insane, though, so keep your feet on the ground!

Here’s an example of adopting a new belief this way:

Adopting the belief “I am sexy.”

Instead of just telling yourself “I am sexy” over and over again like most affirmation exercises tell you to do, sit down and make a list of reasons why you are sexy. Go ahead and take your time with this if necessary. If you can’t think of at least a handful of reasons in one sitting, ruminate over the topic and try again the next day… and the next day… and so on and so forth until the belief of “I am sexy” has a solid foundation of reasons that become self-evident to you more and more. During this process, any reasons previously programmed in your mind that “prove” that you are NOT sexy become overshadowed by your new programming and become insignificant.

Open your mind up enough and you will be able to find reasons as to why anything is true. There is no reason to give up on adopting any positive belief that will be useful to you.

Note that I am not talking about absolute or higher truth; I am talking about your personal beliefs that shape your success and lifestyle.

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  1. Anonymous says:

    I like the way your thinking, because I did the: adopting the belief “i am sexy” myself. And I think it works because girls seem to like me more and more, but despite that there is always a little voice in my head who denies everything and tells me that every move a woman make on me was just an accident. Do you have any tips for me to get me over that last bump.

  2. Anonymous,
    This process works for all beliefs. You still have a belief in the back of your head that says “I am not sexy because of this, this, and this.” Use this method of actively seeking evidence to disassociate the concept of “not sexy” and those reasons your mind is telling you. You are essentially going to disassociate “not sexy” from anything and everything about you.

    Whatever reason your mind gives you that says you aren’t actually sexy, counter it with a reason on how you are actually sexy for that very reason and support it with evidence.

  3. this reminds me of the file drawer effect from research studies: we as people tend to focus on evidence which supports our core beliefs and we discard anything that conflicts, like reading into a horoscope as to your day, or thinking women are unreliable and remembering only unreliable women in your life/past etc.

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